Honoring Justin: Reflections on his Celebration of Life Service
- Lori Oberholtzer
- Nov 7
- 4 min read
These past six weeks have felt incredibly hard - unbearable, really. I find myself still mostly without words as waves of grief swell and overwhelm. Yet one thing that brought me unexpected healing was planning Justin’s Celebration of Life service.
While I felt very detached from, and even resistant to, conversations with the funeral home, I realized how deeply I cared about creating a meaningful Celebration of Life service for Justin.
Finding Purpose in the Planning
Justin and I never once talked about what this service might look like. To be honest, we were both so focused on living - and the massive efforts it took to sustain life - that we didn't linger long on the possibility of death to a point where we felt the need to plan service details ahead of time. Maybe Justin assumed I’d figure it out, or maybe he didn’t think much about it either?
But after he passed, I realized how much it mattered to me. Planning his Celebration of Life became another opportunity to give Justin’s precious life a platform—one where his faithful focus, joy through suffering, and persistent strength could speak loudly and vibrantly once again.
My Goal
My heart was to honor Justin and to give God the glory. I didn’t want the entire focus to rest solely on ALS or the grueling journey we endured. Instead, I wanted to highlight Justin’s character, joy, and humor throughout his life. I wanted our children to learn even more amazing things about their daddy from before they were born- like the way he did a flip throw in soccer, or could bench 300 lbs, or went bungee jumping in New Zealand...
And, at the center of it all, I wanted our shared love for worship to shine through—inviting others into that sacred space with us.
Cherished Moments from the Service
I loved (and will always cherish) every word spoken or precious song by dear friends. I loved hearing Justin’s own words on love, read tenderly by his parents. And I loved the rallying cry from our pastor: we are not done fighting ALS. I also loved finding ways for our kids to be a part of the service like making and handing out prayer cards, picking a special video to share mid service, or putting memories up front during a moment of silence.
Watch :
Click the link below to launch the full recording of the ceremony.
I encourage you to find a quiet spot. Grab a cup of something warm. Let the words and the memories wash over you. And, as you watch, if a memory of Justin comes to mind— please share it below!
What's not in the video:
Some special moments happened outside of the service, and aren't in the video, but were oh so special:
A stunning charcuterie spread by Jovie Events, A pastry table by Zig's Bakery, cookies from some dear family and friends, and a SURPRISE bread station planned by my sister -with contributed from so many! We loaded up on carbs in honor of Justin!
Heartfelt stories were shared by special folks during the "open-mic" time, and man, what a blessing to hear even more stories of impact, love and friendship over the years.
Our HSM Ministry class had a special gift for me and the kiddos, including a beautiful watercolor of our family- what a gift they are!
A touching memory table lovingly arranged by Justin's Mom, Dad and Sister
A video with clips of Justin's voice and laughter, put together by his buddy, Ben
Beautiful posters with pictures of our family and quotes from Justin himself compiled by Lindsey
Prayer cards designed by Talia (“Beach”) and Benny (“Lion”).
A 1.5 hour photo slideshow compiled by , Ashley
A beautiful memory book designed by Michele, where friends and family could share special notes and memories
Giant teddy bears were waiting for my kiddos in the back room (their face lit up!), adn we sat with them and Cooper, our favorite golden retreiver, who provided comfort up front.
The most beautiful flowers from friends and family
Hours spent surrounded by friends over the weekend, simply being together and remembering Justin.
A huge shout-out to my sister, Michele, who took my vision and made it come to life—bringing so many people together to make it happen. Her love and leadership allowed me to let go of the details when my mind, body, and soul were still reeling from the past month. What a blessing she is.
Program (check out the QR code for Justin's worship playlist on the back!)
A simple prayer
Lord, thank you for Justin—thank you for his life, his witness, and his love. As we remember him, may we be moved and inspired to live well. May we be brave in the face of suffering, love those around us, and worship in the storm. Amen.
Thank you to those who have written cards, sent meals and flowers, and those who helped or were present for this special service. You are dearly loved!
-Lori